Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Alternative NYE Ideas

How to Spend NYE When You Don't Like Going Out

  • Research some new activities/adventures for the upcoming months - make a bucket list!
  • Pamper Yourself
    • Mani/Pedi time! Paint your nails perfectly - you have all night! Soak your hands, grab the cuticle oil, go all out.
    • Take a bubble bath, refill the hot water at least once!
  • Binge watch The Great British Baking Challenge season on Netflix and then curse the internet for not having all the seasons available!
  • Make a list of all the great things you've done or accomplished this year. Pat yourself on the back.
  • Have a dance party at home - you can stay in your jim jams!
  • Catch up with your favorite book or blog.
  •  Delete negative energy from your life in the form of "cleaning out" your Facebook/Instagram/Twitters friends. Get rid of the ex lovers/friends and anyone you don't actually interact with but just compare yourself to.
  • Rewatch the Harry Potter series.
  • Watercolor/sketch/color in a coloring book - it doesn't matter if you're good, just if you're having fun!
  • Make some New Years Resolutions that are centered around helping yourself and others, that focus on self love and care not tearing yourself down.
  • Bake/Cook something that's been on your board for a while. Some of mine that have been waiting for me are:
  • Write your holiday thank you cards OR send some love via snail mail just because.

How are you guys celebrating your New Years Eve? If you are going out catch my blog HERE for dresses to wear from cocktails to the dance floor.

Until Next Time,
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Sunday, December 27, 2015

7 NYE Dresses Under $100

The holiday season is quickly ending as the big bang of the end approaches - New Years! If you've been spending the last few weeks scrambling to wrap, write, and pick out things for other people maybe, like me, you've forgotten about that perfect NYE ensemble. In my last minute outfit haste, I thought I'd share with you my findings to assure that it is in fact not too late and it doesn't have to be crazy expensive. Of course, my best bets are finding steals is usually Ross Dress for Less, but if you don't want to brave the winter storms for maybe a great deal, here's some wonderful online finds all under $100!

Monday, December 21, 2015

TV Shows I Love That No One's Talking About

I've been watching a lot of TV lately. Between Myke being gone for three weeks to now being home alone all day, I have a lot of time on my hands. PLUS, TV is easy to have on in the background while I'm doing other things like job hunting and changing my address on every single thing I keep forgetting about. I thought I'd talk to you about some shows that I love, but I only know one or none people that watch them as well.

  • Broad City
    • This show is about two best friends, Ilana and Abbi living in New York City. Abbi is the solid one with a focus who often gets happily led astray with Ilana's ideas of pot fueled fun. I had seen so many meme's I didn't realize were from this show because I watched it. It's smart, funny, and definitely worth your time. It's a half hour show on Comedy Central which has recently been renewed for it's third season set to premiere in February of 2016. 
  • Truth Be Told
    • This is a premiere season for this show which started in October this year. It follows two couples who are neighbors and best friends. It explores diverse topics from marriage to race to exes. I'm sad to know that NBC reduced the number of episodes from 13 to 10 recently. This show is very honest and funny to me.
  • Young and Hungry
    • This sitcom follows Gabi, a young chef in San Francisco and her boss, Josh who is a young, rich, Steve Jobs-type. This show is also slated for a third season premiering in 2016 on Freeform, formerly ABC Family. The supporting casts includes Gabi's best friend, the house keeper, and Josh's assistant. Gabi is blunt as she is beautiful which can lead to some very interesting situations for her.
  • Liv and Maddie
    • This is a Disney show that premiered in 2013 and is currently in the middle of it's third season. It stars the lovely Dove Cameron, as twins Liv, a singing acting sensation and Maddie, a basketball star. It's a cute half hour sitcom about high school and all the drama that brings. The twins also have hilarious parents and two younger brothers with their own hi-jinks. 
  • Crazy Ex Girlfriend
    • This CW show premiered October of this year, it's an hour long comedy drama musical. It's about an unhappy big time New York lawyer who's inspired to make a huge change in her life and moves to West Covina, California! That's also happens to be where Josh, he ex from middle school theatre camp goes, but of course that's not why she's there... In West Covina she makes new friends, dates, and of course hilarity ensues! The musical aspect of the show is original shows thrown in at random, maybe 2-3 an episode that are situational and add to the story line.
  • Brooklyn Nine-Nine
    • This is a single camera police comedy sitcom on Fox. It is currently in the midst of it's third season. It centers around Andy Samberg's character, Jake Peralta who works as a hot-shot police detective in the Brooklyn precinct. There's also Amy - his competitive coworker, Terry - a family man with a wrestler's body, Charles - the dorky sidekick that idolizes Jake, and Rosa - the sort of scary detective that has a hidden soft side. Then, the captain who's probably my favorite character. He's tough, dry, and a very good sport.

Until Next Time,
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Monday, December 14, 2015

Foods I Could Do Without

Matt Bellassai is quickly becoming one of my favorite people on social media. Inspired by one of his latest videos, I decided to also discuss foods that I hate.

First of all, please let's still be friends Matt, but I don't understand beer or wine. "Acquired taste" shouldn't be a thing. If something is gross until you have six of them, I don't want it. The only thing I can get behind so far that's even close to that realm is cider with a shot of Fireball. Usually, even then it's a stretch. Speaking of liquids, flavored water just tastes dirty. It doesn't taste like lemons or oranges, it just tastes like dirty water. And for people who like to call tea that I urge you to drink a lime flavored water. But actually, don't. Why not just drink a delicious Peppermint Mocha frappachino?

Whole wheat pasta is disgusting. People who like it are trying to be healthier and trick themselves into believing it's good. Same for vegetable "pasta" - zucchini is not ziti. Don't try to surprise me with any spaghetti squash either. You can't fool me. Any replacement food is a joke. Mashed cauliflower does not taste like mashed potatoes. Just because something looks like a thing does not make it that thing! And I like cauliflower, but it does not replace the majestic potato.

Cupcakes with icing "filling" are a waste of my time. If I wanted more icing I would take some off the plate of my mashed cauliflower eating friend. I want that cake. The only time I want icing inside of something is a cake ball or a creme filled donut from Dunkin. Not the jelly filled or that disgusting Boston Creme, but the delicious fluffy creme ones. Besides that, get out.

Pho - more like UGH. Do you know about pho? It's a beef broth noodle soup with onions and bean sprouts. It smells and tastes like a foot. It's disgusting and you have to put Sriracha and jalapenos and lime and yuck in it. What are bean sprouts even? They're like not ready, but we still eat them. It's like the veal of vegetables.

Too much meat on things. I do not need pepperoni, sausage, hamburger, Canadian bacon, ham, and bacon on one thing ever especially not if it's pizza. Pizza is about cheese first and foremost. If it's on a sandwich I can handle three meats, tops. Example: Italian BMT from Subway. But if I'm gonna have bacon, I wanna taste that bacon dammit. Don't try to dilute my bacon with your shitty Canadian not-bacon.

Oatmeal is disgusting. It's just lumpy hot mush that kind of tastes like nothing. Mostly it's a texture thing for me. In this same thought we can lump quinoa, grits, and malt-o-meal. I don't want wet sand in my mouth. Why do people want a mouth full of gritty melted concrete? If butter can't fix something I don't need to go there. I can eat fruit and yogurt and whatever else you try to "fix" oatmeal with and just leave out the oatmeal.

I also don't really understand cereal. People who let it get all mushy in the bottom of the bowl - that's yucko. I can eat handfuls of cereal as a snack - Fruity Pebbles, Honey Nut Cheerios, yum. You can even serve that to me with a glass of milk. But don't try to give me that shit in a soggy bowl setup. I don't want my milk turning pink and I'm not sucking it out of the bowl with those gross slurping sounds.

Don't try to defend your favorite food to me, I've already come around to brussel sprouts and sushi. I've tried tons of pizzas with lots of meat on them and they're still sick. What kinds of foods is everyone else always raving out while your stomach turns next to them? Is there something that everyone hates that you just can't get enough of?

Until Next Time,
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Monday, December 7, 2015

OOTD: Christmas Party Edition

My first party in Minnesota was Myke's work Christmas party. As of right now we are still living at Myke's wonderful lovely friends' house and living out of suitcases. Luckily, my mom bought me this outfit right before I left Oklahoma in anticipation of just this event. I got both pieces at Torrid which is having a Buy 2 Get 1 Free sale so... go, go now! (More pictures below the jump)

Bow Back Crop Blouse - HERE
Pleated Chiffon Maxi Skirt - HERE
Black Booties from Ross Dress for Less
Black Leggings from Ross Dress for Less

Necklace - Forever 21
Rings - Vintage/James Avery
Bracelets - Vintage
Glasses - Warby Parker

Monday, November 30, 2015

November Favorites

I want to start sharing my favorites like Oprah except once a month and I can't give you free things of everything so more like.. well, almost every YouTuber and blogger out there. Much like my blog, I have no real focus so it's just going to be things I love every month.

Aladdin Water Bottle

  • I found this at TJMaxx and it's one of my favorite beverage purchases. The top opens like a regular bottle, but the fat part in the upper middle opens as well for easy water and ice pourage.

Starbucks Peppermint Mocha Frappachino

  • I look forward to these every year. As you know, I am solidly team peppermint and this is the tops of all peppermint for me.

Sparitual Nail Polish in Sage Creme

  • My wifey actually found this gem. I was looking for a "greige" and this was the exact hue I was searching to find. I did two thin coats; it dried fast and even. I will definitely be trying this brand in the future.

Turbie Twists

  • Forever a favorite, but not the microfiber ones, those are garbage. Also, Myke got me these adorable pink ones with hearts on them so...


  • Tiger Pumpkins and gourds plus the flowers that Myke D got me right before he left at the beginning of November.

Not my picture, Citrus Ginger BellaVitano Sartori cheese.

  • Honestly, I feel in love with the Rum Runner, but they don't have that here in Minnesota. Sooo I tried the Citrus Ginger and it's heaven as well. Myke also reminded me that we've had the raspberry and it's really good also.

Did you guys find anything that jumped out to you this month that I need to know about?

Until Next Time,
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Monday, November 23, 2015

Myke's Back!

So, Myke D is officially back after being gone for 22 days. If you all remember, in August he left for two weeks and it was the worst. Just kidding, this was worse. I think I forgot to mention, his birthday was 12 days in to us being separated. Also, I couldn't find his present in the hectic packing so... he just got a card from me. The worst.

Now, I know some of you with amazing partners have gone much longer without seeing your (wo)man; however, this is not the life I signed up for. He is a photographer and not for National Geographic. I was sure once we moved in together the longest I would go without seeing him was maybe a weekend. My anxiety and depression were not ready for this blow. The first week he was gone I didn't shower. This is the first time I'm admitting that. I washed my face and my hairdresser washed my hair during the middle of the week when I got it cut, but I didn't wash my body for seven days. When I finally did, I didn't feel any kind of release being clean. It just felt like a thing I was supposed to do. In the following weeks, I have taken better care of myself. If you have any degree of depression you know that sometimes just showing up feels like something that should be applauded.

Now, don't get twisted - it's not like he completes me or I need him to be okay. My depression has always been at high risk when I'm alone. When I lived with my parents and Leah, I had my own room that I could go to and it was the same type of environment for me. When no one's really focused in on the little stuff (like when I showered last) I find myself sinking into the depression. It used to be worse on long weekends or breaks. Also, this isn't like he's gone for three weeks and then everything's back to normal. We're packing up our lives. I'm leaving behind everything I've ever known. He's back for 5 days and then I'm gone too.

Why am I telling you all of this? Well, I'm fucking tired of pretending to be okay when I'm not. I've spent too many years (since I was 15 at least) saying "I'm fine" and "it's okay" when it wasn't and I wasn't. I wouldn't be embarrassed to tell you I had a cold, but that I would lie lie lie my feelings. When I first started being honest and transparent about my depression and anxiety, some people told me I was being "over dramatic" or trying to get attention. Then I stopped caring about making other people comfortable. I decided that I didn't need to censor myself or my emotions for others.

Sometimes I just feel heavy. I feel a weight of self doubt and hatred that I can't slough off. I am strong enough and familiar enough now to know it's my mind playing tricks on me. I can tell when the irrational thoughts are taking over. I know I will out on the other side. I know that I am loved and that I am worthy of love. I know this things, but sometimes they're hard to believe. Sometimes it's all I can do to get dressed and leave the house. I push myself very hard to do simple things at times. But some nights I have to just give in when the demons are loud and the clouds are thick.

A few positive things did come out of Myke being gone. Every morning when I woke up, I could turn on every light and play music and just not be considerate. I marathoned a lot of silly girl shows like Maddie & Liv, Girl Meets World, and Young & Hungry. I could stop in the middle of a show and take a shower or a selfie. I could eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted, which has been a lot of carbs and sugar. I worked until six a couple times and it was fine 'cause I didn't have anyone to go home to. I've blogged a lot more. I've written a lot more in general. I hung out with my mom every Saturday since he left. I've seen my cousins and my wifey once a week at least.

But I've been cold and unsnuggled with absolutely no way to take a good OOTD picture and I'm so glad to have him back. Now, we move on to packing, cleaning, and moving to Minnesota. The next time I post it will be after Thanksgiving and I will be officially transplanted.

I'll be sending out my first ever newsletter December 1st. Don't miss out on that mess and sign up for email updates every Tuesday HERE.

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Thursday, November 19, 2015

Team Peppermint

We are in November which is that after Halloween/pre-Christmas season transitional. Thanksgiving is one of my absolute favorite holidays, but we all know that November is traditionally the time when you can indulge in both your pumpkin and your peppermint delights. I asked you all which team you were on and here's the results.

Team Pumpkin - 7
Team Peppermint - 3
Team Salted Caramel (write in) - 2

I am personally Team Peppermint.

Here's what I like that's pumpkin, since you're reading this and you care: pumpkin cheesecake F'Real, pumpkin cheesecake, pumpkin pie, pumpkin cream cheese muffin, and pumpkin Hershey Kisses.

That's it. I also like live pumpkins especially tiger pumpkins. They are also fun to make jack-o-lanterns with and are good for general autumn decor.

Now, let's talk about peppermint. We'll start with edibles and move on.

Peppermint Mocha Frappachinos. I should be able to rest my case there. I know you will expect more from me though so we'll continue. Peppermint hot chocolate, peppermint white mocha espressso, peppermint Hershey Kisses, any chocolate with peppermint candy, peppermint ice cream, candy canes, peppermint brownies pops (pictured above), peppermint cheesecake, peppermint bark, peppermint fudge, peppermint popcorn bark, shall I continue? The marriage of chocolate and peppermint is a match made in the heavens.

Moving on to decor: you can melt peppermints together in the oven to make a circular tray to put your cheesecake on! Also, candy canes on a Christmas tree or in a mug on your desk are a simple and classic decoration! The classic red and white peppermint colors are a staple in any Christmas/holiday decorations. Most winter scenes feature a little polar bear eating a candy cane or a feisty penguin fencing with one. There's even mailboxes with the little peppermint circles!

Basically, I'm peppermint obsessed. Which team are you on?

Until Next Time,
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Monday, November 16, 2015

Fall 2015 Look Book PART TWO

In honor of my favorite season I did a look book a few weeks a go HERE. I had such a blast sharing my style with you, I wanted to do a few more looks! Luckily, the love of my life is very agreeable to helping me out. We only squeezed in these two before he left, but I have many more Look Books in mind!

Look 1
Jeans - Forever 21
Long Sleeve Tee - Old Navy
Flannel Button Up Dress - Forever 21
Boots - Target
Necklace - Forever 21

This outfit has been a staple idea of my fall wardrobe. Boots, jeans rolled up, long sleeve tee, and lots of fun flourishes - flannel dress worn as a vest, kissing couple necklace, Mel B koala hair.
Look 2
Long Sleeve Tee - Old Navy
Skirt - Forever 21
Boots - Ross
Necklace - Vintage Avon
Rings - Forever 21, Vintage, Claires
Lipstick - NYX

While black is a staple of my wardrobe, I haven't worn all black since I was about fifteen. It was kind of fun to don the "fashionable" monochrome look and I felt pretty mysterious with my dark lips. I really like how this outfit turned out, but at the time I was definitely thinking - Is this boring? I found that my heart goes to that pop of color or print in almost all my outfits. Lady is not a vamp.

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Thursday, November 12, 2015

Behind the Selfie

There's a lot of talk these past few weeks especially about the falsity of social media. This is part due to Essena O'Neill, the 19 year old Instagram model who made a statement quitting Instagram and posting the truth behind all of his popular photos. I've heard some people discussing how "of course it's not real". I found myself in this camp. As someone who blogs, who posts OOTDs on Instagram, I know how many shots are taken vs how many I actually post. I know how I stand awkwardly to get the look I want. Then, I remembered 16 year old me combing through Vogue and People. I remember thinking I couldn't wait to grow up and figure out how to add volume to my hair and have perfect skin.

Now, I'm 26 and I know that to add more volume to my hair I either need to add fake hair in or tease the hell of it. I choose to do neither because I'm lazy. I now know that to have perfect skin in every picture I can photo shop out that random pimple or red spot. I know how to appear flawless if I so choose like the girls in the magazines, but I also know that's that perfection is not reality for anyone. Even when I think of my most beloved girl crush, I know I can find those "They're just like us!" pictures if I search hard enough. Honestly, I don't care about that stuff anymore. I'm more interested in what these women have to say, what they have to share.

That 16 year old me though; I still remember the toxic way she thought. I love posting a good lighted selfie on a good makeup day to Instagram - y'all know. I also think it's important for us to be transparent about the other side of it as well. My friends know that I don't always have my makeup on, my hair done. My family knows too. But just maybe there's a 16 year following me. And just maybe she thinks I'm always on. This post is for that girl.

Here's a selfie I posted to Instagram last week after I got my hair done.
Here's outside the frame: I'm holding my hair to give the appearance of more volume and so it looks fuller in the square picture.
Everything in life is more than meets the eye. You don't know what's going on behind the camera or either side of the picture. Same for real life. Someone may seem cheerful and easy going, but be having such a struggle at home. Never take things at face value. It's toxic to compare yourself to anyone. Hell, sometimes it's toxic for me to compare myself to my own selfie!

Until Next Time,
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Monday, November 9, 2015

Adventure Awaits

I have so many new projects coming up that I'm very excited to share with y'all! A YouTube vlog, a newsletter that goes straight to your email, and of course new blog posts. I want you to be all up in my life and I want to make that as easy as possible. So, as always, my About Me page is constantly being updated as currently as possible AND I decided to make this post a little update as well.

I present to you my very first vlog and if you're interested, here's my vlog playlist on YouTube: HERE 

Here's where you can sign up for my newsletter which will debut in December featuring exclusive content and stories never before shared. It will range from poems to old dating stories to just whatever the hell I want.


And here's my four favorite blogs of my own right now:
Don't forget, you can subscribe to my blog via email as well, so you don't miss any new content!

Now, is there any content specifically that you'd like to see more of from me? Body positivity as it relates to something, fashion, personal stories, or advice are some things I've heard before. PLEASE leave your suggestions below or contact me privately to let me know!

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Monday, November 2, 2015

Bibbidi Bobbidi BOO

For Halloween 2015, I went as Cinderella! Here she is...
Once again, as you saw in my throwback Halloween Thursday, this year I pieced together my costume from a few different places. Dress from Modcloth, wig from Ebay, "glass" slippers from Amazon, earrings from Walmart, headband from Forever 21. The wig was probably the most complicated part of my costume. I had to trim the bangs which was a huge disaster. It was also not quite big enough for my head, so you can see some of the brown hair by my ears and definitely the back was a mess. Of course, we're always our biggest critics. I only received compliments from my wonderful friends and coworkers.

Of course I had to make the rounds around the office for selfies and group pics!
The Spice Girls
Villains of Gotham
All the Single Ladies
The whole group together!

Until Next Time,

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