Thursday, November 12, 2015

Behind the Selfie

There's a lot of talk these past few weeks especially about the falsity of social media. This is part due to Essena O'Neill, the 19 year old Instagram model who made a statement quitting Instagram and posting the truth behind all of his popular photos. I've heard some people discussing how "of course it's not real". I found myself in this camp. As someone who blogs, who posts OOTDs on Instagram, I know how many shots are taken vs how many I actually post. I know how I stand awkwardly to get the look I want. Then, I remembered 16 year old me combing through Vogue and People. I remember thinking I couldn't wait to grow up and figure out how to add volume to my hair and have perfect skin.

Now, I'm 26 and I know that to add more volume to my hair I either need to add fake hair in or tease the hell of it. I choose to do neither because I'm lazy. I now know that to have perfect skin in every picture I can photo shop out that random pimple or red spot. I know how to appear flawless if I so choose like the girls in the magazines, but I also know that's that perfection is not reality for anyone. Even when I think of my most beloved girl crush, I know I can find those "They're just like us!" pictures if I search hard enough. Honestly, I don't care about that stuff anymore. I'm more interested in what these women have to say, what they have to share.

That 16 year old me though; I still remember the toxic way she thought. I love posting a good lighted selfie on a good makeup day to Instagram - y'all know. I also think it's important for us to be transparent about the other side of it as well. My friends know that I don't always have my makeup on, my hair done. My family knows too. But just maybe there's a 16 year following me. And just maybe she thinks I'm always on. This post is for that girl.

Here's a selfie I posted to Instagram last week after I got my hair done.
Here's outside the frame: I'm holding my hair to give the appearance of more volume and so it looks fuller in the square picture.
Everything in life is more than meets the eye. You don't know what's going on behind the camera or either side of the picture. Same for real life. Someone may seem cheerful and easy going, but be having such a struggle at home. Never take things at face value. It's toxic to compare yourself to anyone. Hell, sometimes it's toxic for me to compare myself to my own selfie!

Until Next Time,
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